Thursday, August 27, 2009


There are so many stages of our lives that we accept different roles, values, and personas. I'm sure I can say that for most of us, a memorable one was the "tween" years (am I using this trendy phrase correctly??). It's that awkward time when your "not a girl, not yet a woman" (thank you Britney Spears). Well I think I've found the next "tween" years of my life. I'm stuck in the middle of that lively, young college student and professional adult. I look about my age, maybe a little young, but I'm sure I'll appreciate that later on in life. Right now, I just feel like I'm not really taken seriously and it has nothing to do with my work product or degrees I have.

I work at a University, and at 25 years old, most students and faculty alike think I'm an undergraduate student. I do my work well, VERY WELL, get paid nothing even with a master's degree alright, act professionally, blog on the clock, dress the part, yada yada. So this just makes things 10x harder when students think it's OK to say, wow you're young - can I ask how old you are? When is that EVER appropriate?

This doesn't just happen at work. It's with strangers, it's with old friends... I feel like since I look young, am not married, and don't have kids, I'm not taken seriously as an adult. I do want that in my future, but does it have to be that I'm not treated as an adult because I'm not there yet?

When do you really start to feel/get treated as a grown up with a little respect and acceptance?


Sweet Simplicity said...

I feel ya! I work at a university as well and people always assume that I am a student. Sometimes I have to explain it multiple times to people before they will talk to me and give me what I want. (when I visit other offices or our main campus.)

Simply Me said...

I love your blog- I just found it and I love how you write.
as a young adult as well ( while in a whole other industry all together that's mass suicide), I can completely relate.

Anonymous said...

Hi! I SO know how you feel!! I have been mistaken for a student at my little one's school...I have had servers ask my husband if it is him and 2 children. I am almost 30 (my little one is 9) and I am liking those comments more and more these days! haha

d.a.r. said...

Hahaha I could have written this, too!!

carma said...

At my age, I'd be thrilled for that to happen, but I do see what you are saying about not being taken as seriously.

Stopping by from SITS to say hi and welcome! We're glad you're on board :D

greedygrace said...

I'm an insurance investigator, and I get asked my age all the time! It's so annoying! I always want to say, "Dude, what difference does it make??? Do you think I'll be more likely to give you money if I'm 82???" Sheesh!

I came by to welcome you to SITS! We're happy to have you with us!

Josie said...

Great blog! I feel in the same boat as you mentioned, but yet having just turned 26, I am feeling like I should be further along! Eik...I know 26 isn't 'old', but it's starting to feel that way!!!

Joy said...

I'm not sure when it happened {to get taken seriously because you're an adult} but it all stops again once you have teenagers. ;o)

p.s. Welcome to the SITS community!


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